Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Proverbs 31:30 NIV
I’ve been labled as a type of “Shallow Hal”. Without fully realizing it as I’ve grown older I see people’s hearts & actions. They speak to me louder than any style our outward beauty.
I’m by no means perfect or even a “good catch” but I am thankful that I am loved and that the love I give & receive is not superficial or based on my ability or looks.
This proverb clarifies where true beauty is: Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord [reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised. PROVERBS 31:30 AMP
I believe this proverb goes for men & women.
So, looking for prince charming or a true princess or trying to be just that?
Consider this. Take in the metaphoric language and colorful way of describing a spouse worth clinging to; but more than that…plug in your name and consideration of who you are as a Christian everytime you come across the words woman, she, her…everything that gives a description… Make God’s word personal and take it personally.
Before we put great expectations on others (especially our spouses) may we consider and we put into practice the 1st Corinthians 13 type love & attributes that Christ displays for His bride (The Church) and may we be that bride waiting to be found holy & pure to meet the groom/husband (Christ). Now, read this section of Prov. 31 in that light:
A good woman (Christian) is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her (the bride/christian church) husband (Christ) trusts her (you) without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she (you) treats him (Christ) generously all her (your) life long. She (you shop) shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s (you are) like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s (you’re) up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her (your) family (the body of Christ) and organizing her (your) day. She (you) looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s (you have) put aside, plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she (you dress) dresses for work, rolls up her (your) sleeves, eager to get started. She (you) senses the worth of her (your) work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s (you are) skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s (you’re) quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She (you don’t) doesn’t worry about her (your) family (the brothers & sisters in Christ) when it snows; their (the church) winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She (you) makes her (your) own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her (your) husband (Christ) is greatly respected when he (Christ) deliberates with the city fathers. She (you) designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she (you) knits to the dress shops. Her (your) clothes are well-made and elegant, and she (you) always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she (you) speaks she (you have) has something worthwhile to say, and she (you) always says it kindly. She (you keep) keeps an eye on everyone in her (your) household (the body of Christ), and keeps them all busy and productive. Her (your) children respect and bless her (you); her (your) husband (Christ) joins in with words of praise: “Many women (Christians/the bride of Christ) have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman (person) to be admired and praised is the woman (believer/Christian) who lives in the Fear-of- God . Give her (Christ’s true followers) everything she (they) deserves! Festoon her (their) life with praises!
Proverbs 31:10-31 MSG
The same can be done with 1st Corinthians 13. Every time you come across the word “love” try to plug your name in there. You will find that we (as humans) don’t measure up; however, Christ does. In Him is perfect love and in Him, and Him in us, we can have this kind of love. We can display it and live it (have these attributes) as we let Him live in and through us.
I don’t want this post to be extremely long and full of words but one last thing I must include is that 1st Co. 13 text I am referring to…as you read it remember God is love and if we desire & and claim to be Christ-like (Christians) we must let Him perfect His love (who He is) in us.
Love (try putting your name here & everytime you read the word “love”): Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.
Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-13 NIV
Extra – The Movie “Shrek” hits on this whole theme too. Beauty is within: