Funny how the dad may be a good man but you just can not stand his kids!
Ever feel like that?
Now, the other end of the spectrum; I like the family members but not the father of THAT house.
When i was just a little boy i had a friend who i got along GREAT with. He was what people would say today, “my BFF (Best Friend Forever)”. We did everything together but when he would invite me over for dinner or to stay the night i hesitated because once, when going to his house for dinner i encountered his dad and they had these rules at the dinner table that i was not aware of
- Don’t talk unless your spoken to
- Eat everything on your plate
(if you eat it all then they will give you more and you must eat all that and if you eat all that they would give you more and then you find yourselves overly stuffed and sitting there miserable cause it was too much to handle at the time in one setting but you were expected to eat it all, clear your plate!)
- Don’t lean on the table
- Sit up straight
- Don’t make eye contact
- Be sure you not only have a shirt on but a certain type of shirt (must have a collar but no jacket required)
- never wear a jacket with a hood or sweat jacket at the table (no matter how cold and uncomfortable you may be)
- Don’t reach across the table
- Take of your hat
I am positive i am forgetting some of the rules and i am sure there were even more rules i was never aware of but then again, the rules were pending on how sober or kindhearted that father (head of the house/king of the castle) was feeling at that particular moment. Rules were made up as they went along in life and some of those rules didn’t apply at times but at other times were overly emphasized if he had a bad day before work, while at work, after work, or even on a Saturday night when he didn’t even work that day.
All it took was that one experience and i was not going back!
So, i loved everybody in that family except the father and the father, being the head of that household, called the shots and set up a completely different environment that everyone there had to fit into, a Precedent to be followed.
Jump with me into a conversation i’d have with my childhood friend Scott (fictional name):
Scott: u wanna comon’over to our house 4 supper?
Scott: Stay the night?
Me: Na uh!! Uh Uh!!! No way!!!! Never!!!!!
Scott: My dad’s gone this weekend.
Me: Sure what time?!
See what i’m saying?
Church, body of Christ, those called Christian (Christ like or follower of Jesus’ ways) Do people enjoy being around you? Do they see characteristics of our Heavenly Father in you?
Leaders, heads of the house of God, Pastors, Sunday School teachers, Church members, is Christ truly the head of the house (your home and church life)? Do people want to come to the place you call God’s House? Do they see the Heavenly Father’s true characteristics and love, grace, mercy being shared in pure fellowship or do they see it is run by a father who lays down a list of unwritten legalistic laws/rules that you must abide by or you’re not welcome, let alone going straight to hell for breaking?
Our whole Church (where the body of Christ’s gathers) may need a make over. I don’t mean the drapes and the carpet, Or is it just me?
Reply below if you like.
Just food for thought.
Tom “Beetle” Bailey
When I wrote this I worked at The Salvation Army of Saint Augustine, Florida
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